We’re only a few days into the New Year, and there are already new trends being created. One of the most popular trends that has sprouted up in 2016 is the hashtag “#wastehistime2016”. This hashtag was used as a response to an opposing hashtag that was named “#wastehertime2016”. As the tags suggest, both invite social media users to name ways they can waste the opposite sex’s time. Some users took this opportunity to share their sense of humor, while others opted to use this tag as a source of revenge, arguing that they were taking a feminist standpoint on male behavior.
Some of the tweets are actually amusing. A variety of males used the hashtag to share their sense of humor, while others used it as more of an attack on women. Tweets like “make her fall in love with you, start a family, travel the world, grow old together, die of natural causes #WasteHerTime2016” were actually pretty funny, yet others, like the tweet that read “take her to dinner and a movie but when you get there tell her you forgot your wallet at home #wastehertime2016” symbolized how awful some men can be.
The female version of “waste their time” was also just as divided. One user wrote: “Get him pregnant, tell him you gotta run to the store for some milk real quick & never come back #WasteHisTime2016”. Clearly, we know it’s satire, and we can assume this is a lighthearted joke. However, some of the tweets were a tad more questionable. Posts such as “Tell him to come over then fall asleep & don’t answer the ‘I’m here’ text #wastehistime2016” and “finally allow him to take you on a date then after have him drop you off at your other man’s house #WasteHisTime2016” really aren’t funny. Honestly? They’re pretty rude. It also seems sort of hypocritical. You feel that men are constantly doing things wrong, so you advocate behavior that is just as inappropriate? Even if tweets like those were simply meant to be a joke, it still gives off the impression that these users believe this type of behavior is acceptable and amusing.
According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, these tweets are totally justified. Merriam Webster defines “feminism” as “the theory of the political, economical, and social equality of the sexes”. If the “#wastehertime2016” trend started first, then it makes sense that women would want to retaliate and start their own hashtag. It’s only fair, right? Is it fair? Yes. However, this is a perfect example of “two wrongs don’t make a right”. In both situations, people are belittling the other sex and nothing is getting accomplished. We aren’t empowering anyone (which I’m pretty sure is a main part of feminism), and instead, we are enforcing the idea that the other sex is responsible for the other sex’s problems. It’s also important to note that these hashtags seem to ostracize members of the LGBT community. As a whole, these hashtags imply that men are always attracted to women, and women are always attracted to men. As we know, this is not always the case, and the fact that our society has declared “they” as an acceptable singular pronoun for those who are gender fluid or gender nonconforming also suggests that many people don’t want to be limited to a “he” or “she”. Instead, a hashtag that encompasses all genders would have been more welcomed. A tag such as “#Theworstdateever” would be more appropriate (and gender friendly!) than people trying to bring each other down by attempting to waste one another’s time. While these hashtags allowed people to vent about the opposite sex, it seems to be creating an even bigger division of the sexes, which is something we don’t want.
This article was written by Kim Dilisio, a writer for dusk magazine.